From: Donna Banta
Subject: He's another year older, and another year happier.
Since its beginning in September of 2009, Ward Gossip has poked fun at practically all aspects of Mormon culture, practice, and doctrine, including:
(Not to mention my scathing review of Utah restaurants on the hilarious KoriWhore's DoubleD's)
In all, I've posted 85 times, received over 450 comments, and dozens of personal emails. Most people who write are kind and encouraging. Some respectfully disagree. But so far, I have only been flamed once. It was exactly one year ago, on Mark's birthday.
Less than ten minutes after I posted "At 53, He's Still Happy, Healthy, and Ex-Mormon -- Don't You Hate That?" I received a private e-mail from an old "friend" from my childhood ward who told me I was "condescending," "hurtful," "narrow-minded," "uneducated," and "bitter." Then she called me a liar and suggested that I "just go on with my life" and keep my opinions to myself.
She closed her thoughts with, "I hope Mark enjoys his birthday and wish you the best with your family."
This bizarre missive confirmed a theory I have long believed.
In that spirit, I will again pay tribute to my husband of 30 years, and brace myself for the response.
Mormons are taught that those who leave are lazy, sinful, and doomed to a life of misery and suffering.
It hasn't exactly turned out that way for Mark, at least not over the past year. Consider the following common assumptions.
Ex-Mormons are bitter, angry, and miserable.
People who leave the church face financial ruin.
Well, he's not exactly rolling in it. But Mark continues to live on a quiet street in San Francisco, affords visits to Texas and Germany to see his children and granddaughter, and continues to hold a job in a bad economy. Believe it or not, eliminating tithing actually improved his bank balance!
Actually Mark's tastes are for the most part G-rated, except for church history books.
If a man leaves the church, his children will become drug addicts, runaways, and felons.
|Our daughter, Emily, and Daniel|
|Our son, Marky, Meera, and baby|
People leave Mormonism because they want to violate the Word of Wisdom, break the Sabbath and associate with bad influences.
|Happy birthday, honey.|
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